How To Make A Messy Marriage Thrive

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I’m excited to guest post over at Messy Marriage this week and open up about my not-so-perfect marriage! Because seriously, who doesn’t have a little messiness in their marriage? I hope you’ll take a peek at my message and then pop over to say hi to Beth and read the rest.

I have the privilege of hanging out in living rooms, kitchens and cars of so many amazing women across my state. As a Christian radio personality, I have gotten thousands of prayer requests directly sent to me and the biggest request is for healing in their marriages, which are often quite messy.

Many ladies share that they feel unloved or overlooked by their spouses.

We’ve all been there at one point or another, haven’t we?

But many others share horrific tales of abuse they’ve endured behind closed doors from men who claim to follow Jesus. It breaks my heart.

DISCLAIMER: If you’re in an abusive marriage, stop reading and seek help immediately. Get yourself (and kids, if applicable) to safety! Call a local domestic abuse shelter or the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE) to find a professional counselor near you.

The reality Is ALL marriages are messy. Some way more than others.

I feel honored and humbled as I hear these stories from women, but always chuckle when they assume that I have a perfect marriage because I’m a ministry leader. So many of my ministry friends say they hear the same thing.

It’s an impossible expectation to measure up to because there are no perfect humans. Just sinners. That’s why we need Jesus and His perfection on the Cross.

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

John 3:16

Every human is a sinner. And for those of us who follow Jesus, by the grace of God, we get up each day and do the best we can to love the big and little people in our lives. We often mess up. And at some point, we may come to a place where we admit the need for professional help.

There’s no shame in admitting you need help and seeking professional counseling.

Marriage is hard work, so work hard for your marriage!

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Pop over to Beth’s blog and read more about my marriage journey, as well as some of the keys I believe marriages need in order to thrive and heal.

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6 thoughts on “How To Make A Messy Marriage Thrive”

  1. Molly

    Thanks for sharing! I appreciate your desire to share some of ur hard stuff and how God is working in it.

  2. Marriage can bring the best and worst in us. It is not always easy. But lot of prayers, compromise , and grace can bring healing and closeness.

    Thank you for sharing your heart!

    1. Yes! It truly is hard work, but such a refining process and when we lean on God it’s amazing what can happen! 🙂 xoxo

  3. Hannah M.

    Thanks for sharing part of your mess Nicki. I struggle with that idea of a perfect marriage too. Thankful God showed me I have to accept my part too! (Love listening to you on the radio!)

    1. It’s so nice to know we are all in this in some form or another together. Blessings to you! xoxo

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