This marriage stuff is hard work! Not as easy as they make it seem on TV, right? I mean on TV, marriage is either perfect, or it ends when it gets too hard. Fade to commercial. You come back and everyone is happy. Neither depiction is remotely Biblical, or realistic for that matter.
The Bible is our blueprint for living out a Godly marriage.
I grew up in a broken home. The hubs did too. So starting our life out together, I guess you could say we were “in the hole” as far as parental role models went. If someone had given me a heads up, maybe it would have been easier to deal with some of the difficulties we faced.
But we got through them. And we are all the better for it! I am so blessed to be loved by such a wonderfully imperfect, loving, God-honoring man who is as committed as I am to making our marriage healthy. Notice I didn’t say happy. Because no marriage is always happy. Or perfect for that matter. But it can be healthy, even when we’re grumpy or going through a difficult time or having a bad day.
We sought out Godly marriages and role models, and learned what it means to truly live God’s design for love and respect, leadership and submission. It wasn’t easy and it’s still a work in progress, just like any healthy relationship. We work at it daily. And we constantly challenge one another to grow deeper in our relationship with the Lord and one another.
Praise the Lord for forgiveness. And abundant mercy and grace.
We all have an opportunity to learn from our mistakes. In life. And in marriage. But if that’s true, then why do so many marriages, and so many people, keep making the same mistakes over and over again?
The answer is so simple. SIN.
Stupid Satan. And darn that Eve for eating that apple! (j/k, sort of)
I don’t know if it’s due to my life as a radio girl, or just because I am approachable, but I’m aware of A LOT of people who have very broken marriages. Christian people. Couples who put on smiley faces on Sunday and then the rest of the week, well, let’s just say it’s not so smiley. People you would never in a million years suspect of an unhappy or unhealthy marriage.
Today my heart is so very heavy for people whose marriages really suck.
My heart cries out for friends, acquaintances and others I know who are in such a dark place in their relationships right now.
(If you are in need of a healthy marriage, please reach out and ask a trusted friend or two for prayer. Please, don’t give up hope. Keep praying. Keep asking God to move mountains in your marriage. Take a look at your own sins and failures (we all have them) and ask God to reveal to you what you can’t seem to see, whether you’re blinded by pride, bitterness or anger. Whatever it may be, just don’t give up hope. And continue to ask God to work wonders in your spouse. He is a God who can move literal mountains. He can do it in your marriage too.)
Will you join me in prayer today?
Pray that hurting marriages everywhere can be healed through God’s word and a lot of patience, love and hard work. Pray that spouses who are angry and apathetic become overwhelmed with a fierce desire to fix what is broken. Pray for those who feel they have officially checked out to check themselves back into their marriage and renew their covenant with the Lord. Pray for those that feel it’s not their fault to have their eyes open to their own sin and how it’s damaging their marriage relationship. Pray for spouses to get into God’s word and remind themselves of His design for their broken, hurting marriage.