Do you ever feel like your hopes, dreams, fears or worries go unheard by the people around you? Have you ever felt invisible to the people you come in contact with each day? You’re not alone, but your voice matters!
We all struggle with feelings of insecurity and unworthiness from time to time. I think the enemy of our souls likes to convince us that we’re the only one who feels the way we do. Everyone else has healthy marriages, friendships, and family interactions. But not us, right? We’re isolated in our struggles.
Do you ever feel overlooked, ignored, discarded, invisible? If so, you are not alone.
I was invisible growing up. And when I wasn’t invisible, I was criticized for not being good enough, which often made me yearn to feel invisible. It was a toxic, vicious cycle.
The A’s on my report card weren’t A pluses. The award I won at a local spelling B wasn’t a big state or national spelling competition. I wasn’t the captain of my cheer squad, I was merely a team member. Going to state for high school tennis team wasn’t heading to nationals. I wrote speeches for the Governor after college, but it’s not like he was the President. I traveled and worked on a Presidential campaign advance team, but our guy didn’t win, so what was the point? I lobbied Congress and won international awards for marketing and communications efforts, but it’s not like it wound up on the front page of any paper or the evening news, so who really cares?
All true stories, by the way. My mom was my worst critic while she was alive. My dad didn’t stick around long enough to criticize, but he sure did enough physical damage. The step dad who followed did enough psychological torture to last 20 million lifetimes.
Growing up, I was never good enough.
But boy did I kill myself trying to win the awards and praises of my parents. I became a perfectionist. And then I never measured up to my own standards. It was a vicious cycle.
I yearned to be validated, loved, and seen by the people who gave me life. But I was never able to measure up to their toxic standards, so I created my own set of crazy unrealistic standards and could never measure up to those either. Talk about crazy-making behavior!
Have you ever been caught in that cycle? It’s hard to get out of it. And it causes so much fear, anxiety and shame.
Your voice matters. YOU matter.
Did you catch that? Just in case you missed it, I’ll say it again: YOU MATTER. I wish I had grown up around people who could love me as I needed, as any human needs. But my parents were stuck in their own shame spiral from their childhood and I think they likely did the best that they could, given their own messed up childhoods.Your voice matters. YOU matter! Click To Tweet
Hurting people hurt people. This isn’t a new, novel concept. But it’s true. And it’s often a cycle the enemy uses to keep us down. So I want to remind you today that YOU matter. YOUR voice matters!
I wish I could shout that truth from the rooftops today and that we could sit across from each other and celebrate just how special you are!
You are special. YOU matter.
- You don’t need to have the perfect waistline or achieve some number on a scale to matter.
- You don’t need to drive a fancy car or have a perfectly decorated Pinterest-worthy home to matter.
- You don’t need to bake fabulous cakes or throw amazing birthday parties for your kids to matter.
- You don’t need to have perfect parenting skills or well-behaved kids to matter.
- You don’t need perfect teeth, perfect hair, the perfect wardrobe, or a large bank account to matter.
- You don’t have to start a blog, write a book, or become a public speaker to matter.
In all honesty, you don’t need to feel validated or loved by your spouse, kids, family, friends, or coworkers to matter to God. This is truth, whether it makes us sad to acknowledge this happens in our relationships from time to time or not.
You matter to the God of the universe. You matter to His Son, Jesus Christ.
God is writing your beautiful story as we speak. He created you for a special purpose. He gave you a voice that only you can use to impact others in your life today.
If there have been voices in your life that have told you that your voice doesn’t matter, I’m here to tell you today that you do. Haters gonna hate, don’t listen to those negative nellies. What God says about you is all that matters.
You are a work in progress. You are not perfect. You only need to rely on The One who is.
God has made you uniquely you. Totally wonderful and amazing just as you are! But He loves you so much that He doesn’t want you to stay caught up in your head (or your sin), He wants you to give everything over to Him and live for Him today. Wholeheartedly. To share your dark, bumpy mess with the loved ones around you. To speak up and free that beautiful mind and heart of yours from all the dark thoughts that threaten to pull you down today. To be all that He created you to be.
Find your voice. Use your voice. Look for your audience. Seek for your people. Love your people. Hug your people. And speak Truth into their lives, even if they choose not to listen. Just speak your truth in love and with compassion and grace.
Don’t let the enemy steal your joy.
We shall not let the enemy steal our joy or stifle our tongues any longer. Speak bold, kind, loving beautiful truth into the hearts and minds of the people you love today. Pray about your words and choose them wisely, but speak honestly. Be loving. Be kind. Be brave.
Start using your voice with YOU!
Seek out the nearest mirror. Gaze into that mirror and show some love to yourself. Instead of tearing the woman down who looks back at you, speak truth into her heart today. Remind her that she is beautiful, she is more than enough, she is loved, she is redeemed, she is amazing and that she is a beautiful child of the One True King.
Go ahead and cut that woman in the mirror a little slack while you’re at it. You’ve been way too hard on her lately. In fact, tell her to go paint her nails, or read a good book and do something just for her today, because she works so hard loving on her people, she deserves it.