Do you ever have those moments, days, ok, entire weeks, where you just feel so exhausted and completely overwhelmed? Ever get super worked up about an issue that, after a little post-meltdown reflection, seems totally insignificant? Been there? Me too!
I’ve been having one of those weeks, a set of weeks actually, where the silliest little things set me off. Like earlier this week, I forgot to take the clean dishes out of the dishwasher and threw a dirty spoon into the basket. I flipped. Can you believe it? I mean, hello, reach into the bin. Remove offending flatware. Drama over. Right?
Sigh. That would be too simple.
Instead, I threw a hissy fit. Plain and simple. A big old, crazy-lady hissy fit that would put a teething two-year-old to shame. To shame dear friends. To shame. Thankfully, my hubby was working, so he was spared my Oscar-worthy performance (where’s a hidden video camera when you need it?)
It wasn’t my brightest moment. So why share it with you?
Because after said hissy fit, I began comparing myself to a woman I recently met from West Virginia. She’s perfect. Perfect hair. Perfect makeup. Perfect kids. Perfect house. Perfect life. The woman from West Virginia would never throw a hissy fit. She doesn’t do drama. Or insecurity. She’s too busy being PERFECT!
Eventually, I realized how silly it was to compare myself to her. I mean, she’s living in a perfection bubble, while I’m in my kitchen just keeping it real.
“For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” Romans 3:23
We’re sinners. And sinners need a Savior! That’s why Jesus came. When we place our trust in the one true King, He forgives our imperfections, frees us from our shortcomings and overlooks our hissy fits.
I feel very blessed today. I am friends with some really beautiful, flawed ladies. They are real. I can go to them when I have my dishwasher breakdowns and be reminded that God loves me. I am not judged by my perfection but am loved for my imperfections. They extend grace. Offer prayer support. And we are real with each other. Plus, they aren’t afraid to tell it like it is.
Flawed friends. Good old-fashioned hissy fits. Imperfect living. Dirty dishes. A loving husband. Open Bible. And Jesus. If you ask me, that’s way better than living in a perfection bubble.
Please don’t get stuck living life like the woman from West Virginia, trapped in her lonely perfection bubble.
Embrace imperfection. Be real with the people that matter most.
Be real with yourself. Be real with God. Offer grace. Extend forgiveness.
And finally, to the woman from West Virginia, grant yourself a little grace today. And please schedule time for a good old-fashioned hissy fit. You deserve it!
Your Grace Challenge
- Who is the “woman from West Virginia” in your life? Why do you feel inferior when you are around them?
- Ask God to help you see this woman through His eyes today. Take some time to pray for them. Maybe even reach out to her directly and see if there is anything you can pray about?
- If you are close, share with her a little piece of your heart today, talk about a tough situation you are having lately, or just admit to her you’re having a tough day. Be real with her.
- Take some time to pray today and ask God if this woman is someone that you should have in your life. If so, then find a way to be more real with them. Lead by example, and see if they will reveal over time a little of their own flaws with you. It might take time, but if it’s a relationship worth keeping, it will be worth the effort.